Saturday, 30 January 2010

Handle Interruptions

Type 1:
Sometimes while you're speaking and haven't finished your sentence yet, the party that you're talking to interrupts what you say to point out what himself/herself wants to say.

In Persian culture, it's extremely rude and disrespectful to do so but in British culture, from my understanding, it appears to be normal in meetings, etc.

First I thought OK, I interrupt them as well but didn't like the aggressive atmosphere of interrupting each other because the whole point of communication is communicating thoughts and ideas. So, I thought I'd need a proper strategy to handle this.

There are many reasons that a person might interrupt another person:
  • He/she is insensitive about another person
  • He/she thinks that what he knows or says is more important
  • He/she is too bored or tired
  • Ego
  • Personality
  • The speaker talks too much
  • Short of time
The best strategy is to be assertive instead of getting angry of being interrupted:
  • "May I finish please?..."
  • "May I finish please if you don't mind?..."
  • "I wasn't finished..."
  • "If you let me finish I would.."
Type 2:


Tuesday, 26 January 2010

Be Proud Of Yourself

One of the great techniques which helps building your confidence is to affirm yourself that you are proud of yourself for who you are. This gives you confidence and security and reduces worries; consequently you will enjoy life more.

Always add reasons why you're proud of yourself. This would build your self-confidence, self-worth and self-belief:
  • I am proud of myself because I love others and from all races or background
  • I am proud of myself because I can forgive others
  • I am proud of myself because I do exercise
  • I am proud of myself because I don't give up in difficult times and to problems
  • I am proud of myself because I think
  • I am proud of myself because I do encourage others
  • I am proud of myself because I do help others
  • I am proud of myself because I can be creative when needed
  • I am proud of myself because I can resolve difficult problems
  • I am proud of myself because I am humble
  • I am proud of myself because I see and accept my mistakes
  • I am proud of myself because I show respect to others
  • I am proud of myself because I work hard
  • I am proud of myself because I get up early in the morning
  • I am proud of myself because I eat healthy food
  • I am proud of myself because I am eager to learn new things
  • I am proud of myself because I can stay calm in stressful situations
  • I am proud of myself because I am
  • I am proud of myself because I stay hopeful always
  • I am proud of myself because I can make new friends and keep the existing ones
  • I am proud of myself because I converse with God
  • I am proud of myself because God loves me and has called me by name
  • I am proud of myself because I am saved through Jesus
Being proud of yourself is completely different from being selfish. You can be proud of all the good things you have done and this generates enormous positive self image that can change all your thoughts, words and actions.

Sunday, 17 January 2010

Holidays and Holiday Parks

Book Holiday (Flight + Hotel):

Holiday Parks in UK:

Wednesday, 13 January 2010

9 Principles of Being a Successful Leader

I am going to summarize 9 principles of being a successful leader here inspired by Dale Carengie.

Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

Call attention to other people's mistakes indirectly.

Talk about your own mistakes first.

Ask questions instead of directly giving orders.

Let the other person save face.

Praise every improvement.

Give them a fine reputation to live up to.

Encourage them by making their faults seem easy to correct.

Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.


Monday, 4 January 2010

The Power Of Spoken Words

Whether positive or negative, spoken words with your mouth have enormous power and energy.

You might have many ideas and thoughts in your mind but until you speak them with your mouth, they can't become powerful.

You can bless, curse or even be indifferent with your spoken words.

Words can make your life miserable or marvellous.

Spoken Words are expressions of thoughts and they have the power to shape your life.

Enough positive spoken words can end wars.

Spoken words influence our thinking.

Well chosen spoken words can stimulate the psyche, rekindle enthusiasm, generate more insight and vision.

If you want to make or keep friends, your words can make it happen.

Spoken Words as Containers:

Spoken Words are containers. They are containers of your enormous energy. They can build up others and yourself or otherwise they can pull down.

The Power of Negative Spoken Words:

Negative spoken words have also enormous power and carry so much energy. They can hurt, destroy or make others angry. Negative words can slaughter your passion, lower your sense of worth and sabotage your level of enthusiasm.

The words we speak can wound others. These wounds can stay with people for years and affect them in ways we can't imagine.

Positive Practices:
  • Pray not only with your mind but also with your mouth; say it loud
  • Be word-wise; watch what words you're speaking. Choose your words carefully and make sure what you say with your mouth is to be used for good and building up yourself and others. Use your words to work for you not against you. Speak words as though you create them.
  • Go to war against the negative spoken words with your positive spoken words. Bless those who curse you Jesus says. When you say "I am sorry" against what wrong you have done, you wipe out the offence and its negative impact instead you bring sympathy and caring. I might write an article about this later.
  • Write a list of positive power words and read them loud out. Update your list whenever possible.
  • Learn new power words; learn from dictionary or listen to people who use better spoken words
  • Admire the good deeds of others with your spoken words; don't be indifferent or ignore them.