Thursday, 22 December 2016

From Pain to Strength

Betrayed by a friend loved and trusted. 

Lessons:
  1. Always sign written contract with others specially with your friends with whom you think you have trust. That's to avoid miscommunication and misunderstandings, protects you and them.
  2. Always think about risk management if things didn't go according to your hopes. Ignoring risk doesn't remove them.
  3. Always verify every claim someone makes and never simply believe what you hear. Due diligence always. Some people easily lie to deceive you to use you in their interest.
  4. Be sensitive and indirect in your criticisms as some people may respond back irrationally. Always start and end your criticism with appreciation.

Saturday, 17 September 2016

Worry Not!

Worry Not!
Worry is the language of the poor!
Worry causes even more problems, doesn't solve anything!
Worry is being too cautious, timid approach to life! What if this happens, what is that happen! It's all risky!

Instead practice to

Handle the negatives and manage the risks, don't dwell on them!
Take helpful positive actions, give it a go!
Give up worrying!

1)
Have clear vision
Define what you want very clearly
The values you're after
What is important to you

2)
Research
Gather facts, evidences without judgement
See both positive and negative
Verify every claim
Don't rely on speculations, assumptions, etc.

3)
Research
See what options you have

4)
Decide the best action

5)
Have Self-Confidence
Belief in Yourself that You Can Do It!

6)
Take Action
Review and Monitor

7)
Celebrate

Friday, 16 September 2016

Mindfulness

Learn how to control your mind than letting your mind control you.

Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment and non-judgmentally.
Mindfulness is about training your mind to be in the here and then now. It helps people make a radical shift in their relationship to their thoughts feelings and bodily sensations which all contribute to depression and anxiety

So the main aim is training your mind to listen to you rather than your mind running away with you. Starting to learn how to control your mind by bringing it back to the present moment.
Exercise 1: Fruit
Pick an object in your room such as an ornament or a fruit, an apple.
Take the object and hold it in the palm of your hand or between your fingers and your thumb. Paying attention to just seeing it. As if you're seeing it for the first time
Look at this object is if you've never seen such a thing before.
Turn it over in your hand.
Explore its texture with your fingers.
Examine the highlights where the light shines on it...the darker hollows and folds.
Let your eyes explore every part of it as if you've never seen such a thing before.
And if while we are doing this any thoughts come to mind about 'what a strange thing we are doing'or what is the point of this or I don't like this, then just 'notice the thoughts and bring your awareness back to the object.
And now take the object and hold it beneath your nose Carefully see what you notice , does it have a smell.
And now bring your attention back to just looking at it again.
Now slowly take me up to your mouth and maybe noticing how your hand and Arm know exactly where to put it, perhaps noticing what happens in your mouth as it comes up.
And then gently place the object in your mouth, noticing how it is received without biting, just explore the sensations of having it in your mouth.
Now explore the object with your tongue, noticing the sensations as you move it around your mouth.
Slowly chewing it, noticing what's happening in the mouth, the change in the consistency of the object.
And then when you feel ready to swallow, see if you can detect the intention to swallow as this comes up so that this is experienced before swallowing it.
You now have experienced something amazing. Mindfulness!
Exercise 2: Washing Up

When washing up you can notice the temperature of the water, how it feels on the skin, the texture of the bubbles on the skin, and yes we might even hear the bubbles as they softly pop. The sound of the water as we take out and put dishes into the water. The smoothness of the plate, and just a note to seeing what we might not normally notice.
Exercise 2: Walking
Mindful walking brings new pleasure. walking is something most of us do it some point during the day. We can practise mindful walking just for a few minutes at a time during the day.

Rather than be in our heads we can look around and notice the things that we can see around us, the sounds that we can hear. We might notice sensations in our body just through the act of walking. Thoughts may intrude but we can just notice them and then bring our attention back to our walking

Thursday, 15 September 2016

The Art of Tact

Tactfulness and Considerate => Builds and maintains improved relationships at home, work and with friends

vs

Inconsiderate and Rudeness => destroys reputation and relationships and causes offence and create enemies


Monday, 12 September 2016

How to Burn Fat and Lose Weight?

Disclaimer: these are just my personal strategy and my understanding from the books I've read.


NUTRITION

Basically, the recommendation is to use Ketosis Diet Plan.

This means a diet high in quality fat (60-70%), moderate protein (20-30%) and low in carbs (50 grams a day).

Warning: this low carb diet is not for everyone so check with your doctor before trying this.





Carbs and Sugar

Sugar exists in your body in 2 forms.

  1. Glucose which is a sugar flowing in your blood.
  2. Glycogen which is a sugar stored in your liver.
Your body burns sugar as the first source of energy since it's the easiest form of energy. So as long as you have sugar in your blood system, you won't be burning any fat.

That's because smallest amount of sugar increases your Insulin Hormone and decreases the Glucagon Hormone.

Insulin is a fat storage hormone and Glucagon is a fat burning hormone.

So your aim is to avoid carbs/sugar during your fat loss diet (1 month) so that your insulin is low and your glucagon is high so that you burn energy from Fat Cells.

Then later for weight maintenance period you should only consume good carbs in moderation only.

Bad/simple carb/sugar:
  • Sweets
  • Biscuits
  • Cakes
  • Alcohol
Good/complex carb (high fiber carbs):
  • Oatmeal
  • Fruits; high in sugar though
  • Whole-grain products such as brown rice, beans and whole-grain bread
  • Honey; all sugar!
  • Berries
  • Grapefruit
Fat

In order to burn stored fat, you must eat more of good fats because fat burns fat! Also fat makes you feel full so you'll probably eat less overall.

You should aim to add good fat in all your meals.

Bad fats to avoid:
  • Transfats such as french fries from shops
  • Saturated fats
  • Ice cream
  • Fried foods
Good fats in moderation always:
  • Fish (Salmon, Tuna...)
  • Avocado
  • Olive oil
  • Eggs
  • Peanut butter
  • Butter
  • Nuts; almonds, walnuts, flax-seed
  • ...
Try avoiding fats rich in Omega 6.

Protein
Eat protein in each meal such as:
  • Fish; Salmon, Tuna...
  • Beef
  • Turkey
  • Egg
  • Beans, lentils
Vegetables
Vegetables are full of minerals and vitamins. You should add vegetables to all your meals even breakfast but remember that vegs are also carbs so limit the size.
  • Raddish
  • Cucumber
  • Tomato
  • Lettuce
  • Pepper
  • Broccoli
  • Lemon
  • Celery
  • Spinach
  • ...
Daily Fast (12 or 16 hours)
Every night you must fast between 8pm and 8am for 12 hours to speed up your fat burning process.

For example
  • Eat your dinner by 8pm
  • Sleep at 11pm
  • Wake up at 7am
  • Have breakfast at 8am
During those 4 hours, it's OK to drink water or have a cup of tea; anything without any calories.

Another strategy is to fast for 16 hours and only eat between for example 12pm and 8pm or between 8am and 4pm. This is called Intermittent Fasting where you skip one meal and you only eat during the 8 hours. There are many health benefits to this and proven fat burning benefits.

If you can't do it on a daily basis, at least do it on a weekly or monthly basis.

Morning Drink
Try to have a glass of water with lemon (1 only) or Apple Cider Vinegar (1-2 tea spoons) every morning before breakfast. Remember to brush your teeth after this.

Daily Amount of Food

It doesn't matter you eat very healthy if you eat too much; you will still get fat!

It's complicated how to calculate how much you really need since it depends on age, sex, metabolism, etc but as a high level guide:

Recommended daily fat intake (around 70g for me): http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0922553.html

Recommended daily protein intake (around 165g for me): http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/caltp.htm

Recommended daily CARBS intake (around 165g for me):
http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/calcarbs.htm

Cooking

Try to steam, bake or grill. Don't fry with oil to reduce calories.

Portion Size

Reduce the portion sizes to half and instead increase the number of meals to 5 or 6 instead of 3.

Water
Aim to drink 5 glass of water every day as it helps increase your metabolism.

These are usually fine too:
  • Coffee; not more than one a day since it can increase your stress level
  • Green tea
  • Coconut water
Spices
Spices are generally good and increase metabolism so add them to your tea, food or salad.

Examples:
  • Ginger
  • Cinnamon
  • Pepper
  • ...
Recipies

ACTIVITY

Try to increase your physical activity in general specially if you have a lifestyle that is not very active.

If you take bus, get off one stop earlier and walk the rest.

Go to park with family and friends and just walk at every opportunity if you can.

Cardio
You'll achieve higher fat loss rate with high intensity interval training (HIIT). In contrast, long periods of low intensity cardio has the opposite effect! it results in fat accumulation in midsection so you should avoid it because it puts the body under stress and increases cortisol hormone.

You'll also achieve higher fat loss rate (about 20% more) doing cardio (30m HIIT) in the morning before breakfast because body blood sugar level is minimum.

Swimming is also great.

Action:
For 15-20 minutes a day, jog for 1 minute then run fast for 1 minute

Resistance Training
The more muscle you have the more fat you burn so set a routine to weight train for 2-3 times a week at home or gym.

Resistance training increases your metabolism for 36 hours post workout; this is due to the cost of rebuilding your muscle.

Resistance training means you must stretch your limits. For example, if you do biceps for 10 times and get really tired, you should try to push yourself for another 2 times.

This causes microscopic damage or tears to the muscle cells, which in turn are quickly repaired by the body to help muscles regenerate and grow stronger so rest also becomes important after resistance training that's why you shouldn't do it every day - 2/3 times a week should be sufficient.

Exercise Routine

That's my routine in the mornings before breakfast:
  • 5 minutes stretches
  • 40 minutes resistance training (6 workouts, each workout 3 sets 8, 10, 12 and 30-45 seconds rest between each set)
  • 15 minutes of High Intensity Interval Training e.g. cycling, running, etc

Ab Exercises:

4 sets of 10 each
  1. Leg raises (impacts lower abs)
  2. Crunches (impacts your core)
  3. Twisting crunches (impacts love handles)

MINDSET
Stress
Add activities in your daily life that reduces your stress - stress increases fat storage hormones.
  • Walking in the park
  • Swimming
  • Visiting friends
  • Yoga
  • Mindful meditation
Sleep
Aim to sleep between 7 to 8 hours. Lack of sleep gives your body stress thus makes you fat

Education
Generally you must be keen to learn more about how our body works in terms of burning fuels.
Also learn about foods and nutritional values.
Learn about the hormones involved to burn or store fat and when they get triggered.

Persistence

It's not about 1 day or 1 week. The weight loss programs usually should take 4-8 weeks depending on the individual circumstances then there is a stabilization phase and monitoring to maintain the weight.

Plan
Plan properly.

First month is attack which is cutting all the carbs (good and bad) and achieving your result then gradually add good and healthy carbs such as fruits and honey and keep monitoring your weight.

I did what I wrote here and achieved my weight loss goal in 2 weeks.

  • My weight went down from 80kg to 75kg
  • My waist size went down from 101cm to 95cm
  • My body fat percentage went down from 25% to 18%

After 2 weeks, I'm just trying to build more muscles and follow the healthy diet and keep my body fat percentage below 20%.

Wednesday, 30 July 2014

How to be more Innovative?


  • Do things in a different way.
  • Change the routines of your life.
  • Overcome the fear of failure. It's OK to fail as long as you learn from the mistake.
  • Observe people, processes and how things work.

Tuesday, 22 July 2014

Speaking Fast and the Illusion of Higher Intelligence?

I used to believe articulating words is best but I think we should know when to speak fast and when to articulate.

Often, people who explains things quickly and well usually appear more intelligent and smarter and gain higher credit from others and enforce more control over others.

The psychological trick is that when one speaks fast, he would have more control over others because he steals the time needed for others to have their own thoughts. In addition, the quicker you speak, the quicker your brain works and you yourself feel more intelligent and are able to analyse things quickly and better.

This is not against any listening skills.

So perhaps best is: when you're presenting something solo, articulate. When you're communicating with others speak faster.