In other words, how'd you like to be treated if you were in the other person's shoes.
Transformation:
Wisdom is not effective without Love.
When combined, it makes you a/an:
- Empathetic communicator
- Diplomatic personality
- Social charisma
- Agreeable personality
- High emotional intelligence
- Kind yet assertive
Examples:
| Blunt/Commanding/Destructive/Insensitive Non Engaging |
Polite/Constructive/Sensitive Replacement Engaging |
|---|---|
| Do it now. | Could you please do this as soon as possible? |
| You're wrong. | I see it differently. |
| I don't like this. | I'm not sure this works for me. |
| That's a bad idea. | We might want to explore other options. |
| This is terrible. | This could use some improvement. |
| You missed the point. | Let’s revisit the main idea. |
| I can't help you. | I’m not able to assist right now, but let’s find someone who can. |
| This is not good enough. | This needs some adjustments to meet the standards. |
| You need to fix this. | Could you take a look at this and make some changes? |
| Why are you so slow? | Let’s see how we can speed this up. |
| That's incorrect. | That’s not quite right; let’s correct it. |
| It's too late. | We’ve missed the deadline, but let’s plan the next steps. |
| That's stupid. | I don’t think this approach works well. |
| Don't bother me. | I need a moment to focus; can we speak later? |
| I don't have time for this. | I’m busy right now, but let’s schedule some time. |
| You're wasting my time. | Let’s try to use our time more effectively. |
| This doesn't work. | This isn’t functioning as intended; let’s fix it. |
| Don't argue with me. | Let’s focus on resolving this calmly. |
| It's your fault. | Let’s figure out what went wrong. |
| You're not doing your job. | I’d like to see more focus on this task. |
| I can't believe you did this. | I’m surprised by this outcome. |
| You always mess up. | Let’s try to get it right this time. |
| Stop talking. | Let’s take a moment to reflect. |
| That's not my problem. | How can we collaborate on a solution? |
| I don't care. | I’m not particularly concerned about this. |
| This is useless. | This might not be the best approach. |
| It's all wrong. | There are a few errors here; let’s address them. |
| What were you thinking? | What was your thought process? |
| Figure it out yourself. | Let me know how I can support you. |
| You're too slow. | Let’s try to pick up the pace. |
| Just stop. | Let’s pause and rethink. |
| You never listen. | I feel unheard at times. |
| That's dumb. | That approach could use some refinement. |
| Do it better. | Can we improve this? |
| I don't trust you. | I’d like to build trust with you. |
| This isn't what I asked for. | This doesn’t align with my expectations. |
