Don't Allow To Be Ruled By Emotions!

This is a very important technique towards developing emotional intelligence in you in a way that you tend to gain full control over your own emotions.

This is a wisdom that when learnt properly can bring you indescribable and constant blessings and joy in life and save you from the real dangers of negative emotions that can ruin and destroy your life.

Yes, acting, thinking and speaking emotionally can ruin your life.

Let you control your emotions, don't let your emotions control you. It's not easy at first but with practice you can master it.

Listen to your emotions kindly as you listen to your child, but don't allow it to be a parent of your life.

Don't be ruled by emotions. Instant emotions don't see the potential, they don't see the future, they have very poor judgement and are often wrong. Emotions only see a single moment and if uncontrolled they always have wrong judgement and can bring you and people around you misery and discomfort.

Let your mind prepare appropriate responses to situations and direct your emotions by your wisdom rather than vice versa.

Develop self control and choose not to react quickly emotionally when facing difficult challenges/situations in life but respond thoughtfully and properly always.

Choose to be all-good in all situations; think good, say good, write good and do good no matter what challenge you're facing in life. That's what should rule over your life then blessings never end flourishing into your life.

Many don't get the chance to learn this as they're always too involved and busy with life, some have to pay a very heavy price themselves to learn this and the lucky ones like you who have read this short article, can learn it quickly and by daily practice can master the skill.

Emotional Intelligence

What is it?

Emotional Intelligence (EI), which is measured by Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ), is the ability to identify, assess and manage the emotions of one's self, of others and of groups.

It's good to say that some brain researchers believe that EQ, not IQ, is maybe the true measure for human intelligence.

Necessity

Not having this intelligence is too costly whereas having and developing it is essential to create and maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves and others.

I believe this intelligence is absolutely essential for all the relationships we have including:

• With ourselves
• Team leadership
• Team working
• Friendship
• Marriage
• Family
• Business relationship
• Customer relationship

Benefits of having it?

I believe having and growing this intelligence reshapes our behaviour to:

• Know our own emotions better which leads to make wiser decisions to resolve our challenges.
• Have a better understanding of different people which leads to make better decisions in how we communicate with them
• Develop and maintain a tactful and wise relationship which adds our value, respect and professionalism.
• Recognize when to ask what and from whom. As a result, we get what we want more efficiently (easier and quicker)

How to grow in this intelligence?

We need to be wise enough to be able to see the world and situations from the viewpoint of others. It's not an easy task and needs practice to get it developed. Having said that some people inherentally are better than others but the good news is that it's something obtainable.

We need to understand the ways we COMMUNICATE with other people including telephone, chat, email, forum discussions, meetings.

We also need to understand that EMOTIONS have great power in all the communications and relationships.

This understanding and wisdom certainly changes our behaviour towards ourselves and others around us and we will "Treat people in a way we like to be treated".

Example1

When you wrote an email to a person and before sending it, read it again to understand that if another person was reading it, what thoughts or emotions she/he might have. This wisdom certainly changes the way you wrote the email.

Next

Learn more about this intelligence and practice it daily.

More info

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_intelligence

http://www.time.com/time/classroom/psych/unit5_article1.html

http://quiz.ivillage.co.uk/uk_work/tests/eqtest.htm