Saturday, 23 November 2024

From blunt and commanding to polite and considerate

You're a quick thinker, clear in mind, honest, frank, truthful and you want to get to results quickly. That might be good for you if you were living on your own but that can be devastating and destructive to the quality of your relationship with others and be perceived as insensitive, inconsiderate, harsh, non diplomatic and blunt how the thoughts are expressed.

In other words, how'd you like to be treated if you were in the other person's shoes.

Transformation:
Wisdom is not effective without Love.

When combined, it makes you a/an:
  • Empathetic communicator
  • Diplomatic personality
  • Social charisma
  • Agreeable personality
  • High emotional intelligence
  • Kind yet assertive


Examples:
 
Blunt/Commanding/Destructive/Insensitive
Non Engaging
Polite/Constructive/Sensitive Replacement
Engaging
Do it now. Could you please do this as soon as possible?
You're wrong. I see it differently.
I don't like this. I'm not sure this works for me.
That's a bad idea. We might want to explore other options.
This is terrible. This could use some improvement.
You missed the point. Let’s revisit the main idea.
I can't help you. I’m not able to assist right now, but let’s find someone who can.
This is not good enough. This needs some adjustments to meet the standards.
You need to fix this. Could you take a look at this and make some changes?
Why are you so slow? Let’s see how we can speed this up.
That's incorrect. That’s not quite right; let’s correct it.
It's too late. We’ve missed the deadline, but let’s plan the next steps.
That's stupid. I don’t think this approach works well.
Don't bother me. I need a moment to focus; can we speak later?
I don't have time for this. I’m busy right now, but let’s schedule some time.
You're wasting my time. Let’s try to use our time more effectively.
This doesn't work. This isn’t functioning as intended; let’s fix it.
Don't argue with me. Let’s focus on resolving this calmly.
It's your fault. Let’s figure out what went wrong.
You're not doing your job. I’d like to see more focus on this task.
I can't believe you did this. I’m surprised by this outcome.
You always mess up. Let’s try to get it right this time.
Stop talking. Let’s take a moment to reflect.
That's not my problem. How can we collaborate on a solution?
I don't care. I’m not particularly concerned about this.
This is useless. This might not be the best approach.
It's all wrong. There are a few errors here; let’s address them.
What were you thinking? What was your thought process?
Figure it out yourself. Let me know how I can support you.
You're too slow. Let’s try to pick up the pace.
Just stop. Let’s pause and rethink.
You never listen. I feel unheard at times.
That's dumb. That approach could use some refinement.
Do it better. Can we improve this?
I don't trust you. I’d like to build trust with you.
This isn't what I asked for. This doesn’t align with my expectations.