From blunt and commanding to polite and considerate

You're a quick thinker, clear in mind, honest, frank, truthful and you want to get to results quickly. That might be good for you if you were living on your own but that can be devastating and destructive to the quality of your relationship with others and be perceived as insensitive, inconsiderate, harsh, non diplomatic and blunt how the thoughts are expressed.

In other words, how'd you like to be treated if you were in the other person's shoes.

Transformation:

Wisdom is not effective without Love.

When combined, it makes you a/an:

• Empathetic communicator
• Diplomatic personality
• Social charisma
• Agreeable personality
• High emotional intelligence
• Kind yet assertive

Examples:
 

Blunt/Commanding/Destructive/Insensitive Non Engaging	Polite/Constructive/Sensitive Replacement Engaging
Do it now.	Could you please do this as soon as possible?
You're wrong.	I see it differently.
I don't like this.	I'm not sure this works for me.
That's a bad idea.	We might want to explore other options.
This is terrible.	This could use some improvement.
You missed the point.	Let’s revisit the main idea.
I can't help you.	I’m not able to assist right now, but let’s find someone who can.
This is not good enough.	This needs some adjustments to meet the standards.
You need to fix this.	Could you take a look at this and make some changes?
Why are you so slow?	Let’s see how we can speed this up.
That's incorrect.	That’s not quite right; let’s correct it.
It's too late.	We’ve missed the deadline, but let’s plan the next steps.
That's stupid.	I don’t think this approach works well.
Don't bother me.	I need a moment to focus; can we speak later?
I don't have time for this.	I’m busy right now, but let’s schedule some time.
You're wasting my time.	Let’s try to use our time more effectively.
This doesn't work.	This isn’t functioning as intended; let’s fix it.
Don't argue with me.	Let’s focus on resolving this calmly.
It's your fault.	Let’s figure out what went wrong.
You're not doing your job.	I’d like to see more focus on this task.
I can't believe you did this.	I’m surprised by this outcome.
You always mess up.	Let’s try to get it right this time.
Stop talking.	Let’s take a moment to reflect.
That's not my problem.	How can we collaborate on a solution?
I don't care.	I’m not particularly concerned about this.
This is useless.	This might not be the best approach.
It's all wrong.	There are a few errors here; let’s address them.
What were you thinking?	What was your thought process?
Figure it out yourself.	Let me know how I can support you.
You're too slow.	Let’s try to pick up the pace.
Just stop.	Let’s pause and rethink.
You never listen.	I feel unheard at times.
That's dumb.	That approach could use some refinement.
Do it better.	Can we improve this?
I don't trust you.	I’d like to build trust with you.
This isn't what I asked for.	This doesn’t align with my expectations.

Freedom through Vision

When something happens or said that bothers you like feeling disrespected, not listened to, ignored, taken advantage of, your mind puts a locked anchor on that event like a ship that drops its anchor at the bottom of the sea, it gets stuck!

The more sensitive you are when exposed to that event and the more emotionally you were engaged in, the greater that anchor lock would be felt on your mind. Basically, your mind is trapped in negativity and you fall in the vicious cycle that only grows the negativity.

That locked anchor and the chains cause your mind to get back to that event, review and highlight it over and over again, taking your valuable time, mental energy and resources.

You complain and keep complaining and blaming everyone else how sick they made you feel or that event made you feel.

Even the society and media make all their efforts to put your anchor stronger in negativity, what wars are going on, who is fighting whom, crimes, who is in trouble, since the vampires feed on your negative energy.

This is the root cause of all bitterness, hostile behavior, stress, gossips, revenge and anger.

The cycle of pain which is automatic.

This anchor could be because of current events or past events.

So how can you set yourself free?

The solution is through sticking to your vision of FUTURE and letting go of past and present after briefly learning from any lessons they have had for you.

This is the only solution, don't look for anything else.

Your mind acts like a ROBOT. It will act like a STRONG MAGNET and make your commands, dominating thoughts and emotions true. It will show you ways, shed lights on innovative solutions.

VISUALIZE and keep visualizing your desired outcome and events that will happen in the future.

Basically removing your past/present anchor and putting it in the better future with all its details.

Declare your DESIRES and HOPES, clarify them, believe that they will actualize. The better relationship with people, better education, greater business success, more creative, better kids, better family relationships, better fitness and health, deeper spiritual relationship with God, overcoming the challenges.

Every moment, put your mind anchor in creating the future that you desire and deserve.

Focusing on the future requires COURAGE to be CREATIVE, BOLD enough to LET GO.

The more you practice this, the quicker you can release your energy and pull out the anchor from where it got stuck!

Every morning, declare the future you see yourself in and live there every moment during the day.

• You will be fit and healthy.
• You will be surrounded by supporting people who help you grow.
• Your business will flourish.
• You will learn all the skills you'd require to be a success.
• You will be educated and certified with top marks.
• You will see evidence of consistent success and profitability in your business.
• You will be master of your emotions and thoughts.
• You will be respected, loved and admired.
• You will be safe, grounded and protected.
• You'll overcome any challenges thrown at you.

What are your desired future outcome for your relationships, health, business, education, etc?

ENJOY THE FREEDOM!

3 Pillars of Good Life

PEACE, ENERGY and KNOWLEDGE. 

Take actions that increase your PEACE

Remove actions that disturbs your PEACE

Take actions that increase your ENERGY

Remove actions that disturbs your ENERGY

Take actions that increase your KNOWLEDGE

Remove actions that has no benefit to your KNOWLEDGE

To Do (Increasing Peace):

• Practice mindfulness meditation daily.
• Cultivate gratitude through a journal.
• Spend quality time in nature regularly.
• Foster positive relationships with friends and family.
• Practice forgiveness and let go of grudges.
• Engage in acts of kindness and volunteerism.
• Read books on spirituality and inner peace.
• Attend yoga or tai chi classes.
• Develop a consistent sleep routine.
• Set clear boundaries with toxic people.
• Seek therapy or counseling if needed.
• Learn conflict resolution skills.
• Practice deep breathing exercises.
• Keep a daily stress-reduction journal.
• Limit exposure to negative news and media.

Not To Do (Decreasing Peace):

• Avoid holding onto resentment.
• Don't engage in unnecessary arguments.
• Avoid gossiping or spreading rumors.
• Don't bottle up your emotions.
• Avoid excessive consumption of alcohol or drugs.
• Refrain from over-committing yourself.
• Avoid multitasking when possible.
• Don't procrastinate on important tasks.
• Avoid comparison with others.
• Don't dwell on past mistakes.
• Avoid toxic or abusive relationships.
• Don't suppress your feelings.
• Avoid overthinking or rumination.
• Don't take on other people's problems.
• Avoid excessive materialism.

To Do (Increasing Energy):

• Exercise regularly, including cardio and strength training.
• Prioritize a balanced diet with nutritious foods.
• Stay hydrated by drinking enough water.
• Get enough quality sleep.
• Practice stress management techniques.
• Set achievable fitness goals.
• Create a morning routine for energy.
• Take short breaks during work.
• Socialize and connect with positive people.
• Try new hobbies and activities.
• Listen to uplifting music.
• Maintain a clean and organized environment.
• Practice time management.
• Seek inspiration and motivation daily.
• Take regular vacations or breaks.

Not To Do (Decreasing Energy):

• Avoid excessive caffeine intake.
• Don't skip meals, especially breakfast.
• Avoid excessive sugar consumption.
• Don't overcommit to too many tasks.
• Avoid negative self-talk.
• Don't neglect physical health.
• Avoid excessive screen time before bed.
• Don't stay up too late regularly.
• Avoid dwelling on past failures.
• Don't procrastinate on self-care.
• Avoid toxic or draining relationships.
• Don't isolate yourself for extended periods.
• Avoid negative news overload.
• Don't neglect relaxation time.
• Avoid overworking without breaks.

To Do (Increasing Knowledge):

• Read books from various genres.
• Take online courses or attend workshops.
• Engage in meaningful discussions.
• Seek out mentors or experts in your field.
• Stay curious and ask questions.
• Learn a new language or skill.
• Set aside dedicated learning time.
• Stay informed about current events.
• Follow reputable educational websites.
• Attend lectures and seminars.
• Join a book club or discussion group.
• Teach others what you know.
• Listen to educational podcasts.
• Experiment with new hobbies.
• Travel and explore new cultures.

Not To Do (Decreasing Knowledge):

• Avoid mindless scrolling on social media.
• Don't dismiss differing viewpoints.
• Avoid intellectual arrogance.
• Don't neglect critical thinking.
• Avoid staying in your comfort zone.
• Don't be afraid to admit ignorance.
• Avoid making assumptions without evidence.
• Don't be overly influenced by biases.
• Avoid excessive television watching.
• Don't procrastinate on learning goals.
• Avoid distractions during study or work.
• Don't rely solely on one information source.
• Avoid excessive partying or distractions.
• Don't skip opportunities for learning.
• Avoid negative self-talk about your abilities.

Remember that balance is key in achieving these goals. Choose actions that resonate with you and your specific circumstances, and don't hesitate to seek professional guidance or support if needed to help you along your journey of increasing peace, energy, and knowledge.

How to Increase Your IQ and EQ?

What Improves Your IQ and EQ:

Financial Intelligence

Health Intelligence

Social Intelligence

Business Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence

Exercise

Regular exercise specially in the mornings, oxygenating your body and strengthening your muscles

Nutrition

• Nuts such as walnuts
• Seeds such as Flax seeds
• Seafood such as Salmon
• Water, green tea and coffee
• Berries such as strawberries
• Vitamin K, lettuce, kale, spinach
• Take Fish Oil
• Herbs such as pepper, turmeric, cinnamon
• Creatine, it increases blood flow and energy to your brain
• Fast on a regular basis e.g. weekly, fasting allows your body to repair its cells and become younger
• Vegs and fruits
• Avoid processed foods and junk foods

Rest well your Body and Mind

• Get enough good sleep e.g. 7 hours
• Meditate several times a day
• Take care of your body

Mental:

• Memory activities, memorize more e.g. learn a new language
• Play an instrument, creates new nerve connections
• Read more, find best articles, find best books
• Writing
• Learning new skills
• Remove wastes, stop doing what's not helpful
• Avoid multitasking, don't switch between tasks too often - e.g. split your tasks in 30 minutes chunks
• Be organized

Social:

• Give thanks and appreciation on a daily basis
• Give admiration and praise of the good others or yourself do
• Socialize with people with shared interests e.g. join like-minded clubs
• Observe well and Ask questions
• Be interested in people
• Remember people's names
• Smile at people and be friendly
• Teach and share what you know

How to deal with Frustration?

 There are countless reasons to be frustrated in life, things don't go as expected, issues happen, failures, mistakes, etc.

When frustrated instead of focusing on the problem, being negative and have bad attitude, complaining and nagging all the time, feeling annoyed, hurt and betrayed.

Try to immediately focus in the "good" in events, people, things and situations

Then you'll be able to deal with the frustration with a better mindset which leads to better decisions and results.

A Potent Recipe for Life

Blend:

1. Coconut water
2. Banana
3. Honey
4. Turmeric
5. Cinnamon
6. Ginger
7. Pepper
8. Garlic

Drink every morning on empty stomach

Benefits:

• Protects body against cancer, stroke, inflammation, blood circulation issues
• Eye health
• Weight loss
• Increase metabolism

Win every Life Battle with the weapon of Positivity

Our daily life is full of challenges:

Pains, fears, ignorance, insults, offences, attacks, threats, problems, challenges, failed promises, failed and unrealistic expectations, never good enough.

Some are self inflicted by habit or accident and some by others and some by circumstantial.

What's the greatest weapon you can have which can help you deal with these inner and outer wars?

The greatest weapon is Positivity.

• Positive Thoughts
• Positive Words
• Positive Actions

Being positive is not easy at all and requires discipline, self control and habits to be developed.

Routine:

Create a daily routine to write a positive diary. 

This diary is not a diary of detailing what happened, how you feel and nagging. 

This is a self coaching approach that empowers you to turn your life around and move from the cycle of pain and suffering to the cycle of joy and peace and stay there.

What thoughts/words/action would you focus on against those inner and outer wars and challenges?